Personal Success: Your Reference Group

Change your point of reference and you will change your life.

When I say “reference”, I am referring to whom or to what you are comparing yourself.

Are you rich?  Compared to whom?

Are you smart?  Compared to whom?

Are you intelligent?  Compared to whom?

Are you a hard worker?  Compared to whom?

Are you a good parent?  Compared to whom?

Each person has to define their own success in each individual area.  The easiest way for us to define success and to get a clear picture of success is to use the picture or example of someone else that is already doing what we hope to do.  But in order to avoid complacency, the simple task of changing your reference can change your life.

There’s a story about a group of businessmen that wanted to be successful in their businesses and in their finances.  They began to all hang out together until eventually they were all millionaires.  They continued in their normal ways, thinking they were big shots, until one day a billionaire joined their group.  Suddenly, they realized that there was a whole level of success that they had not yet envisioned.

Hang around with losers and sooner or later, you too will become a loser.  Hang around with winners and you can’t help but become a winner as well.

If you want to become a good parent, make friends with other good parents and do what they do.  Once you become a good parent, begin to use great parents as your new point of reference and work to become a great parent.

If you want to become debt-free, hang out with others that have already worked their way to a debt-free life.  And once you are debt-free, find a millionaire to emulate.  If you think and do what the millionaires do, you too will soon find your own way to a million dollars.

The key is to remember that there is always another level of success that can be yours if you choose to continually update and revise your focus.  Each time you reach a new level, strive for something even greater.  And in attempting something greater, always update and change your reference group if you ever hope to achieve your full potential.

You were put here for a purpose, you are greater than you realize and your future will be filled with unlimited opportunities when you decide to become unstoppable.

Be Unstoppable!

Mike

Mike Mason, author of Unstoppable Success, is the Founder of Unstoppable Business Consulting, The Elite Training Center and the Clinic Director of The Chiropractic Care Center.  He is considered one of the nation’s premier experts on business and motivation and lectures on success to sports and business groups.  He is reported to be the future of business consulting.